Many would agree that choosing a marriage partner can be the most momentous choice of your life. Therefore the fear of a poor choice can be paralyzing. The concept of “Bashert” – that there is one predestined soul mate for you – can make matters worse by reinforcing the fear that you will find the wrong one. I suspect that a better perspective of “Bashert” is the opposite, affirming that any choice can be the right choice, and that your partnership with G-D is such that your choice has divine sanction. This refocuses us on the truly important choices, not who will you marry, rather how will you build a marriage that can navigate the inevitable challenges any relationship will bring.


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